If we look at Freud’s definition of Ego than we see that it is the capability to defend yourself from situation that cause a real threat. It is like the roar of the Lion in the jungle to warn.
It is the capability to interact with others without disappearing in these relations, almost like the hierarchy in a pack of wolves.
It is the capability to love and dance freely with the beauty of the Paradise Bird.
This is healthy Ego, it is dynamic and has no problem in changing and connecting to the personal Essence, it is a mechanism between the Essence and the outer world.
Since the Essence is vulnerable, the Ego decide when to protect it and when to be open, this is a healthy movement. When somebody tries to assault you, your reaction will be either to fight or to run away. You won’t stay with a big smile on your face and say, “You want to rob me, go ahead, I am all yours.”
The problems arise when the Super-Ego is becoming too strong. The Super-Ego is what we absorp from the outer world, the voices of our parents, society, telling us that we are no good.
A healthy Ego would maybe laugh and do what it thinks right but when the pressure is too much it will develop a defense mechanism by either giving up it’s healthy Ego or building a strong fortress where noone can come in. (and they throw away the key).
This is where Ego becomes a huge problem, this is where Kings go to war and politicians cheat.
This where people get lost in drugs, alcohol and violence.
This is where people get killed in car accidents.
This is where people start to eat junk food.
This is where parents send their childern to schools that teach them nothing good.
This is where the world got lost!
Yes, we should work towards dissolving that kind of Ego but we should not throw away the baby with the bathing water.
Looking for a healthy Ego is the best present that you can give to the world.
Do not start saying that we should all love eachother when you can hardly love yourself, be real! Pretending is part of unhealthy Ego.
Do not run away from Ego just because it frightens you. Face it, breath in it, look in the mirror, accept what you see and step by step look beyond.
